The Homeschooling Family
“This Works for Us”
This is my thirteenth year of homeschooling, and I have been asked some weird—and at times
shocking—things. As a homeschool parent, how do you answer these questions?
What do you say when a friend, relative,
or complete stranger confronts you
about your schooling choice?
Here are some actual questions/
statements I’ve heard … and how I’ve
“So you mean the only time your kids
play with other kids is when they go to
This question was from someone I had
“I find homeschooling is child abuse.
just met. I could tell she was curious how
homeschoolers socialize, and she was not
trying to be unkind. I responded that our
children often play with other kids in the
neighborhood, plus they have friends at
homeschool groups, sports, and other
activities. I also explained my kids have a
lot of cousins to play with when we visit
their grandparents’ house.
You are denying your children a prop-
I got this response online from a random stranger on Facebook who read a
comment I had made on a news article. I
did not respond. This rude comment, to
my surprise, had about twenty-five likes.
While I ignored it, I did think of how I
“You must be really smart!”
would respond if this were said to my
face. I hope, and believe, I would have
responded calmly, that we homeschool
according to the laws of our state, Geor-
gia. I then would explain a bit about how
we learn and what we learn. The thing is,
many people misunderstand or have no
idea how homeschooling works. I have
run into plenty of uninformed people
like this through the years. Some come
across harsh, with a lot of anger. Others
simply have questions based on curiosity
and are not trying to be rude.
I often laugh at this one. I do not call
myself smart at all. I got my GED at
age seventeen and then thought I was
done with school for the rest of my life.
I often respond to this type of statement
by smiling and saying honestly: “I have
dyslexia. I struggle with learning. But the
joy of homeschooling my kids from day
one is that I learn along with them. If I do
By Ashley Allgood